Date Posted: 6 September 2014
To receive the most benefit from a prostate massage, deep relaxation and surrender must occur.
This relaxes all the muscles around the perineum, including your butt muscles.
A man, who is generally in control and in his power, will abandon this feeling and be immersed in sensations of vulnerability and powerlessness. But what you gain in orgasm sure makes up for that!
Not a bad thing if you are with a person you trust deeply!
If you're not sure, try it on your own first. Here are some tips for self prostate massage while pleasuring yourself with masturbation.
It's a really good idea to clean up first by doing a few things:
ensure you've recently had a bowel movement so your rectum is completely empty, and
have a hot shower to get clean
Relax your pelvic muscles with a sitz bath and/or have a long hot shower or bath to relax.
Make sure your fingernails are very smooth and short. You may want to use a quality latex glove or condom. If you'd rather use a prostate massager, here is one that I recommend.
Lie down on your back with a towel beneath you, supporting your head and back with pillows.
Apply a thick lubricant - KY jelly or personal lubrication or a natural castor oil - liberally to your fingers, or prostate massage device, and anal area.
Use the pad of your middle finger to press gently against the anus so it starts to relax.
Move your finger gently in a tiny, circular motion.
Take your time to relax. More time is good as it relaxes our usually very tight anal muscles. Enjoy the sensations. Take at least several minutes at this stage. There are many nerve endings here and once you get over your up-tightness both mentally about this area and your muscles relax more and more, this alone will be very pleasurable.
As your anal muscles start to relax, press more firmly until your finger or massager starts to enter.
It is all about finding the right angles. Your finger should be facing forward a bit, up towards your front, as you find the way in. Move it forward and back to find the easy entry point. Once you get the right angle, it will slide right in an inch or two if you have enough lube.
At first, you may feel unused to the feeling, just because it's unusual. Take some slow deep breaths and let your body relax. It will adjust. Just relax and allow the feeling to unfold.
After a while, squeeze your sphincter muscles gently - this action will help move your finger or device in the last bit. Go slow while you get used to the sensation of having your prostate massaged in this way.
With your finger, press it gently upward (toward your navel) until you feel the prostate. (If using a prostate massager, it will do so automatically as you squeeze). That's the beauty of using these specially designed devices.
Keep up your kegel squeeze exercises or "stop pee" muscle contractions to maintain the massaging motion. Now move the finger forwards and back in a come hither fashion as if you were beckoning someone, always slowly and gently.
Gentle is the key so as not to cause damage or injure the tissues of the prostate. Never, ever use vigorous motion. Combine this with the squeezes for added benefit.
As you'll see in the 10 amazing functions of the prostate, the prostate erectile nerves that you'll be stimulating, are responsible for the swelling and hardening of the penis. Pleasure yourself the way you would normally.
Keep in mind that you can build up the amount of time that you massage your prostate for. At first, start with 5 minutes or less, then maybe 10 the next time, then 15. Slowly remove your finger or prostate device when you've reached the maximum.
If you have never done a self prostate massage, then I urge you to do so for its wonderful benefits and pleasure. Today, it is no longer a taboo subject and it offers too many pluses to be dismissed.